The Intenders Highest Light House Newsletter
February 2016
Table of Contents
~Catching Ourself
~Tony Burroughs 2016 Tour Now Scheduling
~A Gift For You From Corrie and Lisa
~Intenders Bulk Specials
~A Valentine Message from Lee Ching
~Tony Burroughs 2016 Tour Now Scheduling
~A Gift For You From Corrie and Lisa
~Intenders Bulk Specials
~A Valentine Message from Lee Ching
Catching Ourself
Did you ever say something and immediately wish you hadn't said it? Doesn't feel so good, does it? This is because part of you knew that you'd just set the wheels in motion for all sorts of crazy experiences to come your way - all because you didn't stop yourself. By the same token, did you ever start to say something that you didn't want to be manifesting in a million years, and you caught yourself before you said it? Felt good, even though it seemed like you were going to burst inside, didn't it? Now you won't have to go through all those crazy experiences that you would have had to deal with if you had opened your mouth at that moment.
This scenario happens to all of us all the time. We're suddenly faced with a point in our conversations where we can feel that it's our turn to talk in order to keep the momentum of the conversation going. Everybody's looking at us, waiting to hear what we have to say - and it's at this point where we have a snap decision to make. We can agree or disagree or be silent. All of these choices can take us closer to or further away from our happiness, so our decision rests upon whether what we're about to say will serve us and our friends, or not. If we say something that doesn't serve us, we'll have to pay the price. But if we catch ourself before saying anything, we can change the direction of the entire rest of our life.
I had this happen to me at a party recently. I was sitting on a large circular couch with a bunch of friends and a couple of strangers. One of the strangers whose name was Millie was talking about how she hated getting older. She droned on well past the point of comfortable conversation. She complained about her legs, her back, her neck. She complained about her lack of finances, her lack of family, her lack of friends. She complained about the government and the healthcare system, and just as her complaints were reaching their crescendo, she turned to me and said, "What do you think about getting older, Tony?"
Well, to be honest, there was a part of me who was primed and ready to commiserate with her. I even heard a voice in my head say something I had said without thinking in similar situations in the past. But this time I caught myself - and stopped for a moment, just long enough to ask myself if saying anything would serve me, or her, or anyone else on the couch. The answer I got was clear. If I agreed with her about her complaints about aging, I would be setting myself (and everyone else who was listening) up to experience the very same things she was experiencing. On the other hand, if I withheld my agreement, it would keep us all of us out of harm's way. So finally, after several seconds, I looked at straight at her and said, "Hmmm, Millie, what you say is interesting…but it hasn't been my experience."
Driving home from the party that night I was mulling over that conversation and breathed a huge sigh of relief. I'd caught myself just in time. If I would have agreed with her...well, let's not even go there.
Tony Burroughs
1/12/16
What you say is what you get
This scenario happens to all of us all the time. We're suddenly faced with a point in our conversations where we can feel that it's our turn to talk in order to keep the momentum of the conversation going. Everybody's looking at us, waiting to hear what we have to say - and it's at this point where we have a snap decision to make. We can agree or disagree or be silent. All of these choices can take us closer to or further away from our happiness, so our decision rests upon whether what we're about to say will serve us and our friends, or not. If we say something that doesn't serve us, we'll have to pay the price. But if we catch ourself before saying anything, we can change the direction of the entire rest of our life.
I had this happen to me at a party recently. I was sitting on a large circular couch with a bunch of friends and a couple of strangers. One of the strangers whose name was Millie was talking about how she hated getting older. She droned on well past the point of comfortable conversation. She complained about her legs, her back, her neck. She complained about her lack of finances, her lack of family, her lack of friends. She complained about the government and the healthcare system, and just as her complaints were reaching their crescendo, she turned to me and said, "What do you think about getting older, Tony?"
Well, to be honest, there was a part of me who was primed and ready to commiserate with her. I even heard a voice in my head say something I had said without thinking in similar situations in the past. But this time I caught myself - and stopped for a moment, just long enough to ask myself if saying anything would serve me, or her, or anyone else on the couch. The answer I got was clear. If I agreed with her about her complaints about aging, I would be setting myself (and everyone else who was listening) up to experience the very same things she was experiencing. On the other hand, if I withheld my agreement, it would keep us all of us out of harm's way. So finally, after several seconds, I looked at straight at her and said, "Hmmm, Millie, what you say is interesting…but it hasn't been my experience."
Driving home from the party that night I was mulling over that conversation and breathed a huge sigh of relief. I'd caught myself just in time. If I would have agreed with her...well, let's not even go there.
Tony Burroughs
1/12/16